Verbal abuse (also known as verbal violence, verbal insults/reproach/abuse/reprimand, or mental aggression)

is a form of psychological or mental abuse that involves the use of verbal, gestures and written language to

attack the victim. Verbal abuse can include harassment, labeling, insulting, scolding, accusing or shouting

excessively at individuals. This kind of behavior may use derogatory terms to convey statements aimed at

intimidating, humiliating, belitating, slandering or dedging others. Such attacks may cause psychological

and emotional distress to the victims. Speech attacks and abuse affect all groups, cultures and individuals.

These behaviors cause psychological and physical harm to the victim and are considered to be a form of

emotional and physical harm. This behavior causes individuals to negatively evaluate themselves and may

lead to many negative health problems and disorders, such as suicidal thoughts, depression, physical health

problems, anxiety, compulsive behavior, personality disorders, and even aggression.

Victims of verbal abuse may show abuse to others. There are many forms of verbal abuse and verbal attacks.

When individuals understand the possible manifestations of verbal abuse, they can better analyze and

take corresponding actions in specific situations. Speech attack is defined as a feature or trait that drives a

person to attack not only his or her own values and concepts, but also his or her own values and concepts.

Foreword

Bullying:

Use physical, psychological and verbal attacks to threaten others, forcing them to give in to the will of

another person or cause emotional distress. Bullying is usually one-sided, and the victim is not provoked

and can exist in any environment.

Gas lamp effect:

The abuser makes the victims question not only themselves, but also their own reason. Abusers tend to

question them in a way that makes victims question their perceptions. The effects of suspicious incitement

includeindividuals who regard themselves as outsiders, have low self-esteem, and feel that they have no

support for decision-making.

Accuse/deny mistakes:

When a person mistakenly accuses another person of doing something; when a person denies that he

has done or does harm to another person, in order to protect himself and protect the abuser. ( Suspect

incitement also applies to this type of abuse).

Cold treatment/dilution:

refers to the abuser's attempt to reduce the seriousness of the situation and make it insignificant to the

victim or bystander.

Threat:

When the attacker threatens the victim with words or words, making him feel afraid, uneasy or forced.

Personal attack:

refers to the use of offensive language or title to achieve a certain purpose (such as winning in an argument),

or to cause negative reactions to others or situations. This kind of behavior often induces rejection or

condemnation by ignoring the facts of the situation.

The Prevalence of Verbal Violence ····················································································01

Psychological Impacts of Verbal Violence on Victims ··············································02

Responses and Coping Strategies for Verbal Violence Victims·······························03

Recognizing and Expressing Emotions········································································04

Building Self-confidence to Combat Verbal Violence···············································05

Mitigating the Effects of Verbal Violence and Establishing Boundaries················06

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In today's society, verbal violence has become a social nuisance, and it can be seen everywhere in both

virtual social networks and real scenes. A survey found that 38.6% of Chinese Internet users are victims of

verbal violence recently, and 38.6% of young social media users aged 18 to 35 have experienced varying

degrees of verbal violence. Humiliating and attacking others with malicious and dirty language is the most

common form of verbal violence. form.

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Verbal Violence

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Internet verbal violence has varying degrees of psychological impact on victims. Nearly two-thirds of the

victims said they were angry at the verbal violence they encountered on social media, and nearly half of the

victims suffered from severe anxiety. Emotionally, 42.2% of the victims suffered from severe insomnia due to

verbal violence, 31.7% of the victims fell into depression, and 15.7% of the victims said they had had suicidal

thoughts.

Psyc h o l og i c a l I m pac t s of Ve rba l

Violence on Victims

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After suffering verbal violence, 76.4% of the victims said they had sought

help from someone they trusted, and 70.2% of the victims chose to speak less to escape

the verbal violence. 33.7% of the victims said they had sought psychological counseling. Faced with the

impact of verbal violence, more than 16% of victims adopted more

negative methods, and more than 10% of them attempted suicide. There were 36 victims

who tried both methods, accounting for 4.5% of the total number of victims.

Responses and Coping

Strategies for Verbal

Violence Victims

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Recognizing one's own emotions and learning to express them effectively is an important psychological skill

that can help individuals better understand their own inner states and

build healthier relationships.

Perceive emotions

Self-Observation: Stop regularly, reflect on your emotional state, and ask

yourself:

“What am I feeling right now?”

Body signals: Learn to pay attention to body reactions, such as faster

heartbeat, faster breathing, etc., which are manifestations of emotional

changes.

Accept emotions

Accept without judgment: Accept your emotions without feeling

ashamed or blaming yourself for them.

Talk to your emotions: Try to understand where and why your emotions

come from and listen to your inner voice.

Express emotions

Verbalize: Learn to describe your feelings in concise, clear language and

avoid using words that are overly negative or aggressive.

Talk about your needs: Share your emotions and needs with someone

you trust and seek support and understanding.

Non-verbal expression: In addition to words, emotions can also

be expressed through body language, facial expressions and body

movements.

Communication skills

Listen to others: Actively listen to other people’s emotions and opinions,

and respect other people’s feelings.

Mode of expression: Choose the appropriate time and method to express

emotions, and avoid making impulsive actions or remarks when emotional.

Conflict Resolution: Learn to handle conflict in a cooperative and problemsolving manner rather than expressing emotions in an aggressive or

accusatory manner.

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Recognizing and

Expressing Emotions

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Building self-confidence is an effective way to deal with verbal violence. People often feel powerless

and frustrated when faced with verbal attacks. To get out of this situation, you need to improve your

self-confidence. Maintain an optimistic and positive attitude and believe that your words and actions

are correct, so that you can remain calm in the face of violent remarks.

Building Self-confidence to

Combat Verbal Violence

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Troubleshoot in time to reduce the impact.

If you unfortunately suffer from verbal violence, you can talk to a confidant, and you can also eat some foods that

can secrete dopamine, such as bananas, cheese, sesame seeds, etc., which can help us relieve the pain in our hearts

and reduce the impact of verbal violence on us.

Determine boundaries and clarify bottom line

Setting boundaries is to set rules for the other party and establish the dividing line between \"joking\" and verbal

violence. Many times, the perpetrator is not aware of his behavior. We should use our own attitude and behavior

to prevent the incident from deteriorating further.

Focus on yourself, love yourself, and enhance your

inner strength

Self-acceptance is a lifelong issue and it is the foundation for a person's inner strength. We can start

by doing what we are good at, gradually improve our self-confidence, and learn to accept and love

ourselves.

Mitigating the Effects of Verbal

V i o l e n c e a n d E s t a b l i s h i n g

Boundaries